“If you’re vulnerable at work, will it build trust — or backfire?”

That’s the question we asked ourselves. And we didn’t exactly agree.

Luca Kiss sees vulnerability as a strength when used intentionally, especially in trusted relationships. Adorjan Korenyi sees leaders can’t afford vulnerability as exposing your weak points can come back to bite you. See our discussion below:

Luca: We grew up with clichés: Boys don’t cry, girls are too emotional. Boys don’t show their feelings; girls talk everything out. From early childhood we’re conditioned like this. And this package comes with us into the workplace.

Adi: For my generation of men, vulnerability just isn’t allowed. A man can’t have feelings. He can’t be weak or vulnerable. I don’t remember how this started, but it’s probably from childhood: songs, movies, school, friends. All reinforcing this idea.

Luca: We tend to treat these patterns as fundamental gender differences. That’s how we approach the other sex — not just in private life but also in at workplace. But what happens when we show our feelings at work? When we reveal how a situation affects us?

Adi: We become vulnerable. We expose our sensitive points, which can be exploited and cause deeper wounds. We risk becoming the losers in that situation. Who wants that? No one.

Luca: I think it’s more nuanced. Sometimes vulnerability is okay — in relationships based on trust, where someone understands the context and can give real support. But there are times when we cannot allow ourselves to be vulnerable. When we’re responsible for others, we must stick strictly to goals and avoid mixing personal feelings in. 

Adi: As a leader, I can’t afford to be vulnerable. How can I expect my team to follow me if I crumble under pressure? How can I demand professionalism if I can’t make tough decisions? Leaders can’t let emotions overpower reason.

Luca: But admitting difficulties afterward is the least risky form of vulnerability. It shows we survived and learned from challenges, which can motivate less experienced colleagues.

Adi: True. Nobody’s perfect. Nobody is always in control. If someone seems that way, it’s probably because they repress a lot — and that pressure will come out elsewhere eventually.

Luca: Our credibility isn’t just about how vulnerable we are, but how we handle others’ vulnerability. Taking advantage of someone’s weakness might feel like winning, but it can damage trust and relationships in the long run.

Adi: So the key is knowing when vulnerability is worth the risk — but generally, it’s safer to stay professional and strong.

Luca: Yes. When the risk is low and the gain is high, vulnerability can build connection and trust. Otherwise, it’s better to focus on the task and maintain control.

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